I don't go on dates with guys with girlfriends

I feel like I shouldn't have to say that. But apparently, I do.

Today, I was asked on a date by a guy who was already dating someone else. This same thing happened with another guy last summer. In both cases, I was friends with the guy who asked me and had gone on a date with him before (when he wasn't dating anyone). I want to give the guys the benefit of the doubt because I can kind of see how lines get blurred when you're friends with each other and nothing else is happening between the two of you.

But I turned both of them down.

I almost make it a policy to not turn guys down when they ask me on dates. I know how hard it is to ask people out on dates since I do it relatively often myself, so I have respect for guys who do have the courage to ask me out (especially since being asked out happens so rarely for me).

But really?

I almost feel like I was in the wrong since this guy today almost seemed hurt that I turned him down. Or at least confused... Especially because he had apparently already cleared it with his girlfriend, since we had tentatively set up the date before he started going out with her.

But I am NOT in the wrong here. I feel like this should be common sense for guys. When you start dating someone, stop going on dates with other girls. Continue hanging with your girl friends if you want to. (I actually hate it when I lose my guy friends because they start dating people, so please still be my friend.)

But please. If you're a guy and you're dating someone who isn't me, don't ask me on a date because I'll have to turn you down. And I hate having to turn you down.

However... if you do break up with her and I'm still single... I would be more than happy to take you up on that date offer. :-)